The feeling of productivity after you have tackled a huge task is something that can keep you so energized and accomplished you want to keep going and take it deeper.
But how can you keep the momentum going?
This week’s post will focus on the last bulleted item in my last post Un-Stucking Thyself. It deals with surrounding yourself with people who keep you motivated.
Having these people in your corner is one of the most important things that you can do to keep yourself going after you begin the process of “un-stucking.” It’s just too easy to go back to where you were.
I know this to be true because I had many of these people in my crew, especially as I have traveled through my divorce. I can’t tell you how they have literally saved my life.
So with that being said, I have identified four (4) groups of people who should be in your support system:
People that ALWAYS have your back
These are your most obvious choices. Most of us have that person in our lives that gives us some really great advice and is our #1 cheerleader. Your parents. Your favorite uncle. Your mentor. Your homie. Your girl. Your ride-or-die folks. When your butt stinks they will tell you and when you need some motivation they will push you hard.
If you ever want to know who people really are, watch and see how they treat people they think they don’t need – T.D. Jakes
Support from those you LEAST expect
There are times when things happen and there is some random person that helps you with something. It may manifests itself in the form of a quiet person at work that may fix your computer, or somebody who you really don’t like (and knows you don’t like them) that may help wrap up a project.
In my case, I was talking to a lady named Donna at my church. I don’t know her that well, but we are friendly and chat sometimes. She’s that person in the audience that is co-signing and encouraging the pastor while he is preaching. Just a ton of energy and passion.
We were talking about struggles that we’ve been having over the last few weeks. As I told her about my struggles with low motivation, she weighed in. She really didn’t tell me anything that I hadn’t already heard or told anyone myself, but it was the timing, passion and enthusiasm in which she spoke that moved me to action. She’s like Coach Carter on steroids.
I went home that day and put my un-stucking into action after that conversation. I didn’t need to watch Iyanla, Tony Robbins or watch one of those inspirational sports movie. I had talked to Donna.
That conversation gave me the fuel that I needed to take control of my week and get some major things done. Click here to see what I accomplished.
People who you don’t know or hesitant to ask
At some point, we need to involve people in our goals to get to the next place.
I don’t know why most of us hate asking people for things. I guess it’s innate or maybe a pride thing. We probably fear rejection, appearing needy or we just feel stupid. Sometimes we just don’t know what to say. Sometimes we think that we have no right asking the person.
Just as a starving person with no money has to go to someone to get food so they won’t die, you must do the same. If you are really hungry for success, your cause will die if you don’t get resources. In these times you’re forced to ask for help—from anyone who will listen.
A few summers ago, I went to a leadership retreat through Klemmer & Associates. The pic above involves me scaling this 20+ foot wall (yes, that’s me being pulled up). Every person in the group had to get over the wall which entailed the first person being pushed up as high as the tallest person could lift and the person being limber enough to reach the top and pull themselves up. Interestingly enough, it was a woman. She then had to help pull guys up and put together a process of pulling everyone over the wall.
The most interesting thing to see was the group working together to make us feel confident that they wouldn’t drop us, particularly the larger folks. We all had that fear of dropping or being dropped. But as each person went over the wall, both sides gained more confidence that the task would get done.
There are times in our lives where we are dependent on other people and we have to ask for help in order to get the task accomplished. Otherwise, it won’t get done.
This picture sits on my desk at work as a reminder, especially when those hard times come.
There are times the perfect mix of people and a stirring message creates a divine appointment. It happens when you are in the right place at the right time. You may never be connected with these people again, but the impact of them can last forever.
Just about every spring, I find myself at some conference or workshop where I get so inspired it keeps me going for months. Last week, I attended a Saturday field trip for girls interested in careers in technology. I wasn’t really interested in the subject, but just wanted to support the kids and help out the folks sponsoring the trip.
At the end of the day, the six young ladies from my school gave us a run down of their day, the workshops they attended and were very descriptive and detailed about what they saw and heard. They smiled from ear to ear and were beaming as they talked. They said they wanted to start a “Coding Club” at our school. I was shocked. I told the girls that I had a basic concept of coding and they proceeded to break it down to me with their techno jargon. They sounded like they really know their stuff.
When these young ladies spoke you saw the wheels churning and their eyes beamed. The energy and passion that poured from these young ladies was very moving. They found themselves that day and it was very refreshing to see. It reminded me of why we do what we do as educators and was officially inspired.
Three of these girls came to my office first thing Tuesday morning and with and with authority said ” Hi! We are going to start the coding club (not “can” we), we already have an advisor, we have already been in contact with someone from the conference who will send us information on how to start the club. So what needs to be done next?” I was in awe-again.
My dad has a quote, “You can’t let her/him fail.” So, yes another teacher and I will be assisting the advisor. None of us of know anything about coding, but we are going to help these take-charge chicks! These young ladies have moved us because they been inspired and made a decision to make it happen. Just like that!
And we thought we were teaching them something. Ha!
Those who make the worst use of their time are the first to complain of its brevity. -Jean de la Bruyere
Your Time is NOW!
Determine the people that have your back, the ones that you least expect, the ones you are afraid to ask and your divine appointments. Don’t let my students make you look bad!
Remember, the key is controlling your distractions. From last week’s experiment, I have now adopted the process of only watching one (1) hour of TV from Monday morning through Friday afternoon during the school year.
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